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5 More Milestones in My Physical Health Journey

It’s been a good week on the physical health journey already and it’s only Tuesday, so I thought I’d share a couple of updates.

1. Went for my physical this morning and got some initial great news.

Blood pressure is lower but probably have a tad more to go. I’ve lost some weight (but let’s be honest the doctor’s scale was likely not calibrated right). And even got a handshake from my awesome doctor for all the stuff I’ve been working on, layering into my life.

The best part? I didn’t faint when they took my blood.

Hope to get results back later this week.

And I scheduled another physical in 6 months with my doctor to be able to mark and measure my progress then too.

2. Got the first night of my two-night home sleep study done last night. The next one is tonight.

Being able to stay in my own bed, and sleep normally, was super great. The head strap and nose vents were rather comfortable. I didn’t even notice the nose vents at all during the night, even as I turned over and back again.

The last couple of nights, I’ve been viewing my Fitbit’s sleep stats and hope to compare with this study. It’s been really interesting to see my current sleep patterns. I need to do a bit more research about the sleep stages, including REM, which I’ve heard so much about. First observations from about four nights of sleep seem that I’m getting into REM way later in my night and for not long enough.

I should know something by Friday on my sleep study.

(If you’re curious to see how the home sleep study rig looks like, as I was, here ya go. And you can read more about home sleep studies here.)

3. Got a Couch to 5K app and did my first exercise on Monday.

Several people recommended this as a great way to start running and I already like it.

My first workout was a 25-minute total routine. One minute runs, with 1.5 minute walks 6 times. The first couple of runs I didn’t know if I was going to make it. By the third or fourth I was feeling really good.

Right now, I don’t have any aspirations to run in an official 5K, but love how simple this is. And I know I have to take baby steps with this, so it’s right up my alley.

We have an amazing paved trail system at our local health department office, which is maybe a mile from our house. I’ll be using that a lot. It has hills, some equipment spread throughout and is beautiful.

No need for a gym membership right now, or huge drive or time away from the family or work. Lindsey and I are talking through our morning schedules as she’s been running early in the morning for the last several years, but I don’t want to disrupt hers until I actually start doing it more frequently.

On the way back home and for the rest of the day, I could tell a bump from just workout and I’m actually eager to go again.

Looking forward to my next run Wednesday or Thursday.

4. Switching to learning calories. 

Now that I’ve got a couple weeks of Weight Watchers (aka food for dummies like me) under my belt, I’m switching to learning calories better.

Weight Watchers was really, really good way to start off and learn. Now I want to go to the next step, which I think is calories. I’m fully switched over to using Fitbit now for almost everything (calories with barcode scanning, food logging, weight, sleep, steps). It’s been awesome to have everything in one place.

5. We got a home treadmill.

My cousin needed to free up some space in her house and gave us her treadmill. So Lindsey and I cleared out space in our bedroom for it. Now to get it setup and use it as well as the one at our office.

6. Support and encouragement has been unexpected and phenomenal.

I’ve gotten great comments here, on Twitter, on Facebook, and in texts and in person from people encouraging me and offering tips and ideas that worked for them.

When I originally started sharing this I want to simply share what I was doing and learning … but it’s pretty incredible and I’m so grateful for people in my life who care … even if they live thousands of miles from me.

Life is better lived in community. And you’ve been incredible. Thank you!

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OK, that’s the update for now.

 

 

One Step for More Steps

So I got a new Fitbit today. The Charge 2. (Thanks Lisa, Brad, etc for the recommendation.)

It’s the first step to layering in more movement in my life. Specifically step count — what I think is the easiest thing for me to do as a baseline.

(Layering these habits is key for me. I’m not trying to overwhelm myself. One bite at a time.)

The daily preset goal is 10,000 steps, which is approximately 5 miles a day.

I kind of gasped when I saw that as I’m averaging around 2,000-2,500 steps right now according to my iPhone’s Health app. So I’ve got significant improvement to go on my daily movement currently.

(I found lots of good reasons for this 10K step goal here on the Fitbit blog.)

But going with my goal of learning a lifestyle of holistic health, the Fitbit is just a tool to teach me better daily movement habits.

Later on, I want to figure out how to add in more intense exercise routines. But I’m not there yet.

Ideas for increasing daily step count

Trying to be more mindful about my step count means I need ideas to do so …. here are some relatively easy ways I think I can get more steps:

  • Park farther away — that’s just stupid obvious simple for how to get more steps in my life. Being more mindful of this will be key as I did this morning at a coffee meeting.
  • Regularly getting up and moving from my desk — Just doing this will add some to my step count. And I think drinking more water (another thing I’m layering in) would will help this as the more water I drink the more I have to go to the bathroom! I’m hoping my Fitbit’s reminders will help with this without getting annoying.
  • Morning and Afternoon treadmill (or walk around our office complex) — A couple of our team members do two walks around the office every day. Maybe I should just join them! But several years ago, I bought a treadmill for our office and have never used it. (Doh) 2,000 steps takes about 20 minutes according to this article. So I’ll shoot for that and think I could even set a calendar reminder for the best times to do that (and maybe discontinue my Fitbit reminders but we’ll see). I’m already thinking watching Netflix shows or a good audiobook would help the monotony, or as this article suggests, use it as “brainstorming” and idea time (HT here).
  • 250 Steps every hour — so the default reminder for Fitbit is every hour walk 250 steps, which is really interesting to me as I learn what it takes to increase my step count and daily movement goals. Based on the Fitbit info, that’s around 1/8 of a mile, or 650 feet.
  • Extra grocery store steps — we’re trying to save time by using Walmart Grocery Pickup for most of our shopping, but for other stuff, I could easily pace each of the aisles, or add an extra one, without adding too much time. (HT prevention)
  • Drink more water and use a different bathroom — For nutrition alone, I need to drink more water. I have a bathroom within 30 feet of me. But I could double my steps simply by choosing another one in our office. One article suggested even taking the long way to it. (HT Prevention)
  • Bringing back the trashcans — We have a long driveway and I take the trash down with my truck. For various reasons, I don’t want to take both trash cans down to the road right now. But typically after trash day, I load them the empties in my truck to take back. I could change that easily.
  • Do it with others — yes, I could do many of these things with others, but from the past time I had a Fitbit and getting my account back up, I’ve garnered a few friends there. And now am adding more. (Friend me on Fitbit here.)

Ideas with my wife

My wife and I have toddlers. So suffice to say, we have to schedule in quality time for each other. So we do Saturday Day Dates. She’s already a runner, so I’m just catching up. But here are some thoughts for getting some more steps with her.

  • Exploring and hiking some nature trails, like Martin Nature Center in OKC. It combines walking with nature and beauty.
  • Go to a museum. She loves museums. And then I get more steps too, while being more cultural.
  • Walk around Lake Hefner, that has awesome walking trails, or Lake Overholser, which I’m not very familiar with.
  • Explore and walk the Oklahoma River near downtown OKC, which has miles of trails.
  • If we go to the movies, park in the opposite lot.

I realize I’m also using one of my Character Strengths here — Appreciation of Beauty and Excellent — in many of these.

Ideas with kids

I have a 4 year old and 2 year old … they get the equivalent of 15 adults steps in per day currently, so I can use them to help me and get some extra quality time in with them and maybe make some memories too. (Kids, if you’re reading this later in life, you’re a huge reason I’m doing this.)

  • Dance party with the kids — my kids love to dance. They are extremely active and for certain songs in certain movies, they go nuts. Thanks Zootopia! (HT Prevention)
  • Chasing them around the house more — hide and go seek, races around the living room, etc. as long as Lindsey doesn’t shoot us first!
  • Taking them to the playground and doing it with them — I’ve done this mindfully a couple of times. And the playgrounds they and I like best include lots of stairs. I just have some bruises from doing the slide afterward!

Other ideas to contemplate

  • Walks as stress relief — I really hadn’t thought about this. When I’m stressed or anxious, burn it out walking.
  • “Power Hour” — maybe not an hour just yet, but use one of my breaks to do more power or more intense walking. Maybe I up the treadmill speed for a break once I’ve established more of a routine.
  • Play games while walking — this article suggested Pokemon Go. That’d be a neat idea to take my mind off the routine, but we’ll see.

Ideas for charging my tracker

One reason I choose this Fitbit is it is advertised as having 5 days of battery life. We shall see!

But here are the ideas I got or have for charging it (and thus, integrating it as part of my daily life):

  • At my desk — this came from a couple of people’s suggestions. When I’m not moving, I could be charging. So I plan to keep my charger with my laptop and in my bag, as I want to start tracking my sleep patterns now with it.
  • While in the shower — This Fitbit is not water proof. I will need a separate charger I think for this.
  • Buying extra chargers — I found the Fitbit chargers on Amazon for $6, so I ordered two extras. Now I have one for just my backpack/laptop, one for the shower and an extra if I lose any.

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All of this is just academic … now I have to put it in action. But it helps thinking it out a bit to be more mindful.

OK, would love your ideas and feedback here. Thanks!

Step Two: Learning Simple Exercise & Movement Habits

(If you haven’t read this post about my journey to physical health, it’s a great primer to this post, especially if you want to offer feedback.)

Step One was starting the journey and I have done so with Nutrition. I’ve got Weight Watchers going and starting to eat more mindfully and learning what foods I can budget for daily weight loss (and then maintenance).

Step Two is layering in exercise and movement habits as elephant bites in my journey to sustainable physical health.

So that leads me to fitness, movement tracking devices and watches like Fitbit, Apple Watch, Garmin and the like, in order to learn good, new habits and assist me in tracking all of that.

I’ve been using my iPhone’s Health App to track my steps until now, but I’m realizing it’s not very accurate. I also realize I’d like to be automatically recording my pulse too and other features I’ve found in these specialized devices.

Two Keys to Wearing A Device Long Term

Here are the two big keys I’ve noticed about wearing jewelry or bands of any kind (and yes, obstacles to wearing a device long term):

Comfort & Style — Historically, I’ve never been good at wearing watches or other jewelry. They’ve either caused irritations to my skin or just simply aren’t comfortable.

But in addition to my wedding ring, I’ve worn a bracelet that my wife Lindsey got me 7 years ago every day … some days I even forget it’s on.

I rarely take it off. It feels a part of me now. And it’s fashionable.

Since I don’t want to take this off, or rarely, I want it to be stylish enough for when I’m in a meeting or giving a talk. For my sense of  style, I LOVE almost any watch Nixon makes.

Never, Or Rarely, Taking It Off — my wedding ring and bracelet are of course comfortable AND water proof. So I never take them off … and that’s an absolute key in this. Something needs to be waterproof, have a LONG battery life, etc. If I take it off, the incidence of not wearing it goes up dramatically for me.

A couple years ago she got me my favorite watch ever, a Nixon, and I love it. However I don’t wear it every day because it clinks against my Apple laptop (yes, I could get a new band). Otherwise I’d wear it every day. But I realize having to take it off means I often forget it’s there. So unless I remember to wear it on trips (like I did last weekend) I’ll forget it and it collects dust.

What This is Really About

The goal again is for this to be a tool to learn how to live a sustainably healthy life. (You can see my post here as a primer on that.)

It’s not to be an expensive fancy tech gadget that I end up not using. I’ve got enough of those already.

I envision this tool being a long-term part of my life.

My Fitness Tracker Wish List

So based on some things I know about myself and having tested the bracelet and watch as well as looking at some options, here are what I think the essential are for having some kind of wrist fitness tracker:

  • Automatic and accurate step count recording — this is the baseline and most essential. I don’t think I’m getting accurate recording from my iPhone’s Health app, although it does sync with Weight Watchers.
  • Automatic and accurate pulse rate recording — this is included in most of the devices I’ve seen and I want to monitor that as it relates to my heart health. It’s definitely a top priority for me.
  • Automatic and accurate sleep recording — another thing I hadn’t contemplated before looking at what’s out there. And pairs with getting a sleep study soon.
  • Ease of use — thinking a screen output would be better than having to find my iPhone to see more details than the Fitbit Flex 2 type ones. But it also means I don’t have to have every crazy random feature (i.e. Apple Watch)
  • Nylon wrist strap and interchangeables ones — I think it’ll help me with my keyboard clanging issue with my Nixon and also water proof and comfortable (but need to test this)
  • Water resistant — so I don’t have to take it off when I shower (again, I want it wear it as often as possible and not forget to wear it). Some of the options, though, I’ve seen mean I can’t take it in the shower.
  • Long battery life — when I had a FitBit I’d charge it randomly and then forget to put it back one.
  • Automatic syncing with iPhone and for now, Weight Watchers
  • Stylish — I want it to look good. This is why I’m leaning toward a watch, than a wrist band, although I’ve used a Fitbit before and don’t mind them.
  • Price — I want to stay in the $200 or below range. But maybe that’s not possible with my wish list.
  • Clock — although I use my iPhone habitually for knowing the time when I’m out, I’d love to have one on my wrist instead. This would be a double benefit for me: it tracks movement and also looks and acts like a watch. I’ve found I like wearing a watch. I originally put this in the “nice to haves” category, but have decided after writing this it’s more essential to my long-term use of it.
  • Reminders — most of the devices mention some kind of silent alarms to move. Again, I originally put this in the “nice to haves” category, but the more I think about it, I like having the prompts/reminders that I can also turn off. The main reason for this is to help me develop routines and habits of MOVING and not sitting idle.

Nice to have:

  • Customizable and multiple displays
  • Two Factor Authentication
  • Guided Breathing apps/reminders

Things I don’t think I care about:

  • Music
  • Text and call alerts — this is the main reason I didn’t care about getting an Apple Watch when it came about. I’m distracted enough as it is. I don’t need to wear it on my wrist.
  • Calendar Alerts

With all this in mind, I’m leaning toward a watch — particularly the Apple Watch, currently however I’m not settled. I have also looked at the Fitbit Blaze, Fitbit Surge and even Garmin’s vívomove (super cool looking watch but not all I’m looking for I think).

Would Love Your Help Here

HOWEVER … I’m really looking for thoughts, and more importantly tips and tricks with the above context in mind. So please make a comment below if you have some of those for me.

What’d I miss?

Knowing some of the battery issues with all these devices, what are your workarounds (one person suggested taking off for the shower and charging then), hacks for all of this? Do you have Pros and Cons about the particular device you use?

 

My New Adventure, Next Phase To Complete Health

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know I’ve spent the last 7 years really working on and focusing on my mental and emotional health.

I won’t say I’ve magically arrived (and hope I never think that), but I’ve learned a lot and integrated so many positive habits and strategies and ways of life into my life that I’m so thankful for. My life has thoroughly changed and improved through that focus.

But recently I finally came to terms with the fact that a critical part of that is something I’ve terribly neglected the past couple of years: my physical health.

I think the shock, and final straw, was getting weighed last week at 241, the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life.

But there’s also my elevated blood pressure, lack of energy and poor sleep, not being able to fit into some of my clothes and, well, frankly, the desire to live longer so I can savor more quality time with the people I love (my wife and children in particular).

I can give all the excuses you’d want for how I got here. But that’s not what this post is about.

The goal of this post is to clarify what I’m doing for myself …. and to simply document what I’m learning … and also to share it with others, who might be benefited from it.

My hope is I can continue to post updates like these about my new adventure.

So here goes:

1. Transforming goals into learning adventures

I feel like this could be a whole blog post or series in itself. It’s a complete paradigm, mindset shift for how I’ve approached goals.

It started with reading this quote:

“When we express our goals in terms of how we will learn and grow, it opens us up to a whole new level of insight and achievement.” —Tasha Eurich in her book Insight.

That one quote was a life-changing lightbulb moment for me, especially in regards to a topic I have loathed even thinking about.

But I LOVE LOVE LOVE learning.

Learner is my top StrengthsFinder strengths …. as well as one of my top Character Strengths.

Additionally, a core value we have at iThemes is: Learn and Grow, Teach and Share.

The way I’ve always approached goal setting doesn’t really inspire me to action … they would traditionally read like this: “Lose 20 pounds in 8 weeks,” or ” Grow my company to $10M in 3 years” or “Plant a garden.”

Just reading those goals like that makes me instantly think about all the reasons or excuses I don’t want to do them.

HOWEVER …. goals framed as learning adventures do excite and inspire me. 

So for instance, if you take those traditional goal statements and reframe them like this … they pump me up:

  • (Small spoiler alert) To learn what physical health really looks like (nutrition, cooking, exercise, key metrics to watch) and to discover how to maintain that lifestyle for the next 50 years; or to simply learn how to reprogram my mind and habits
  • To learn how to become a better leader and manager, to explore the area I loathe and master it (financial), or to learn how to scale a business like the pros without sacrificing people and values we hold dear in the process
  • Learn how plants grow and why and experiment with them (something I’ve done recently with my kids)

So I’ve dove in with this mindset around my physical health journey, but it’s also transforming my thinking about every other goal in my life.

Learning just makes it more exciting to me. It maps to my strengths, passions and interests. And it transforms what would be a struggle to something of interest for me. And historically, that means success for me.

So now with every goal I ask myself … what could I learn from this adventure that is of interest to me? How can I turn this into a learning process? 

It might seem novel … but framed in that light … I get the motivation and plan I need to attack it and achieve it.

2. My simple, starting goal

So …. here’s my new goal aka learning adventure:

To learn how to live a sustainable, consistent healthy lifestyle SO THAT I can live longer, better, for myself and for those I love.

In reflection, I’ve never learned or been taught how to eat, or how to live a healthy lifestyle. Yeah, I’ve picked bits and pieces up in my 41 years, but it’s mostly very bad habits ….

And so I’ve never been intentional about LEARNING what a healthy lifestyle is, like:

  • How much food can (or should) I eat a day and not balloon up?
  • What kinds of food are healthy and will give me energy and health?

Let me be clear: The goal isn’t start a new diet or a new tool, but I’ll mention things I’m using in my learning.

It’s simply to learn a new and different, yet lifelong lifestyle.To learn a system and process and new habits that prolong my life and happiness, and yes, I’ll use some tools to teach myself that along the way.

Update: My friend Peter Chester’s story sounds so similar to my own and have drawn some new inspiration from it.

3. Nutrition

The first key priority area I’m learning is nutrition …. how to eat, what to eat and most importantly why. 

I’ll share throughout this post that I’ve used a lot of core values, principles and strategies that have made me successful in business and how I’ve applied them to this.

The first is asking myself: How can this fail? 

The basic idea here is to identify the obstacles and challenges to my goal and to take them off the board so I achieve my goals.

So here the key obstacles and challenges I found, with some commentary for how I am attacking them:

  • Lack of motivation and inspiration — I gotta believe in this for it to work. Looking at this goal as a learning adventure has been the first key for me. The next is leveraging my Futuristic strength to see my lifelong goal, what it looks like at 50, 60, 70, 80, 90. For me, my wife, my kids. That’s pretty solid motivation and inspiration.
  • Lack of knowledge and understanding — knowing what to eat and why, how to cook them, how to make good decisions in every situation.
  • Lack of preparation — particularly not having foods readily stocked in our house, or for lunch at the office as well as weekly set meal plans. I’ve also spent a good amount of time preparing for all the disruptions that can derail me.
  • Lack of good decision making in all situation — this goes to disruptions, but also planning. If I don’t plan ahead and make decisions for myself ahead of time, I know I’ll fall into my bad habits.
  • Lack of a routine and plan — I’m aiming for a lifelong sustainable nutrition lifestyle. I need a plan I can fully integrate, by memory and action, into my life. This also includes meal planning.
  • Lack of documenting and reviewing — if I’m treating this as a learning experiment then I have to document AND review it (not particular strong disciplines of mine). But if I don’t properly document and then review those to see how it went, I’ll keep repeating the same mistakes over and over and over again.
  • Life’s disruptions — whether it’s a busy, stressful week at work, traveling, or parenthood … I started thinking about all the disruptions that will cause me to go off-track from consistent, sustainable healthy nutrition and a plan to handle them.

My next step was to prepare and plan ways for those obstacles destruction or to leverage them for success (ref. The Obstacle is The Way).

There will likely be a lot of debate about this in the comments and I’m not interested in that debate right not … but the TOOL I am using to learn basic nutrition is Weight Watchers.

I won’t link to the site, or recommend others use it. Someone I trust (my counselor) shared their story with me about it and I decided to use it as the tool to get started. Simple as that.

I needed to start somewhere and it hit all the criteria I wanted. 

For me, it’s a polished system that’s been used widely with success for a long long time and has everything I want to get started. I’ve learned it’s basically food budgeting. It’s a way for me to understand what I can eat and how much, as well as recipes for doing so.

At some point I can see me not using it (I hope to learn the lifestyle I need by default without the need of a tool like this) and will likely tweak how I use it in the future (there’s already things we want to do differently). But it’s given me a great start so far.

And currently it’s just an easy way to documenting, tracking system to see what works.

Here are some things I have done so far (with the help of Lindsey) with this tool and are planning for the future:

  • We went through recipes on Weight Watchers, favoriting a bunch and picked ones we liked and are easy
  • We went through our pantry, did an inventory, dumped some stuff and scanned labels to see how many points they were
  • Then we spent part of our Day Date Saturday going through Trader Joes and the local supermarket, like wierdo geeks, scanning barcodes to see the “Smart Points.” I wanted to go ahead and save time and buy things, but Lindsey sagely advised we look first, go out and talk and return later.
  • We made a meal plan for the next week. This was tougher work, but it went fairly fast.

If you see these actions clearly, you should see it’s attacking the obstacles of knowledge, understanding and planning. 

Another focus has been — learning how to cook (more, better). 

Again as a learning adventure, part of that includes cooking, something I’ve enjoyed learning to do more and better in the last couple of years. And cooking is critical to my success.

In fact, I started cooking our family’s breakfast almost every morning when our son was born and have thoroughly loved it, inching out and learning regularly. A couple years ago, Lindsey and I were given a gift certificate to a “knife cutting” class at our local vocational school and we LOVED it. Now we’re reviewing classes on healthy cooking.

We recently got an Instant Pot and over the weekend, with the help again of my wife, I started learning how to use it. It’s fast, it’s easy, it’s good. I love it. But I’m also branching out and learning how to use the tools we have for cooking.

The last thing I’ll note for now is a focus on Mindful Eating. The Weight Watchers tool helps me greatly with that. But Sherry shared a list of mindful eating practices in last week’s ZenTribes and it was INCREDIBLY helpful. I’ve been trying to focus on this as I’m eating.

OK, that’s all I have for now on nutrition.

4. Sleep

The next critical area of focus on living a sustainable, healthy lifestyle is sleep.

I’ve neglected it for years. I’ve used dumb methods to help myself sleep better. And I’ve got bad sleep hygiene. But one thing I had to finally come to grips with is that … I may have some form of sleep apnea. 

Talking with my dear friend Jeff, who owns a home sleep study company, and others who have been affected by and thankfully through their experience shares and strong urging … I finally went to my doctor and got a prescription to get a sleep test. It should be here in a couple of weeks!

Thinking back and noting my sleep in the past couple of weeks … I know something’s not right. I snore like a freight train (my wife is too nice to tell me … but my EO forum buddies at the last two annual retreats have unanimously told me as much).

I’m terribly excited to take the next steps and improve my sleep. By the stories I hear it could be life changing for me and my energy. I cannot wait.

5. Exercise

The last area of my current focus is exercise.

The goal here is to learn how to consistently, sustainably add exercise into my life.  

This is the area I have the least to report today, but I have been planning some things.

But first, how can this fail?

  • Never starting, taking first steps
  • Lack of motivation and inspiration — I hate normal routine workout crap and I don’t like to sweat when in the middle of the day when I’m going back to work
  • Lack of time and energy — can I plead parenthood and toddlers and entrepreneurship here?
  • Lack of plan and routine in all situations, for all disruptions
  • Lack of commitment and discipline
  • Lack of consistency
  • Lack of motivation
  • Lack of location or facilities to do so

So here are my ideas to tackle these obstacles:

Daily Activities

How can I get my minimum 90-minutes of exercise a week?

First, being mindful and intentional about exercise in my life.

Second, starting with my daily step count. Being intentional and mindful to simply walk more. WW has a goal of 3,000 steps for me. I’m getting close to that already so now it’s simply building onto that.

Here are some ideas I’m trying to integrate currently:

  • Turning playtime with my kids into exercise time too — Like running around the house (well, outside maybe) with my kids more. They are so active and I can be too and it serves dual purposes. So at the playground on Saturday, when they asked me to chase them, I chased them. And yes, even went down the slides 5 times (which meant climbing about three floors each time)
  • Parking farther away from places
  • Using our office treadmill (I bought it for our team and have never used it personally) — to avoid the monotony of it and not reading email, someone mentioned they listen to audiobooks or watching NetFlix series to keep me inspired (or occupied!)
  • My brother Travis and another friend mentioned boxing too … getting a bag in my garage and doing it every morning like he’s done.

Monitoring/Documenting

Right now I’m just using my iPhone “Health” app, but I need to find my FitBit and dust it off.

Team Sports

To get around the obstacle of hating routine, mundane workouts … I’ve realized I need to get into team sports. That’s much more interesting to me.

In college, I found my favorite sport on earth: volleyball. Last spring, at the urging and support of Lindsey, I returned to this love and played a season (despite being out of shape and practice for around 10 years). And I LOVED it and am watching for the next leagues.

Here are a couple of other ideas I’m exploring:

  • Indoor soccer — honestly I’m not a fan of soccer (although I always root for the Portuguese team!) and have always made the joke that I don’t run unless I’m being chased. However, two things interest me about this: 1. Lindsey wants to try it and we can do it together (quality time FTW). 2. I’ve never intentionally, beyond a class in college, learned the sport.
  • Pickleball — a friend has done this and it really interests me, plus leagues are playing near our house — something we can do together as well.
  • Softball — early on in our relationship, Lindsey and I played softball. I joked before our first game that it wouldn’t be much exercise, but holy cow, was I wrong!

6. Scheduled a physical.

When I visited my doctor about my sleep study, she asked about scheduling a physical. I’m looking forward to getting my baselines in a couple weeks at that appointment (something a friend urged me to do) and to start regularly monitoring and documenting them.

7. Eat the Elephant, Cory.

Another strategy that’s help me in business and in life is remembering to eat the elephant … one bite at a time. 

I’m trying very hard not to tackle too many things at one time. To overwhelm myself. To not slowly learn and integrate habits into my life that will be sustainable for the rest of my life.

I’m focusing on key things in the smallest, doable and most essential way. And then I’m layering in things gradually.

There are plenty of other areas of focus that I want to work on at some point, but for now, I’m trying to focus on a little in order to accomplish a lot.

8. I’m not alone. I’m not doing this alone.

Another business value we talk about at iThemes is Go Far Together. 

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” — African Proverb

I’ve written about her all throughout this post … but without the incredible support and encouragement of my wife, Lindsey, who has longed for me to do this for as long as I can remember in the most gentle, supportive and encouraging way, I would not be on this journey. 

When I finally came to the realization I must get serious about all of this, in what Dan Sullivan calls “Rugged Individualism,” I thought I’d simply do this by myself.

Sadly, I defaulted to what I always do and thought I’d go it alone.

But Lindsey was the first to pledge her full support with not just her voice, but her actions (we really did look like geeks scanning foods). And I’m so thankful. She’s been on this journey for a couple of years ago, doing 5:30 a.m. bootcamps and training and running half-marathons for the past couple of years.

If I’m truly honest … I’ll tell you, she was THE inspiration for all of this. She’s raised my awareness and has shared her welath of Fact Finder research about all of the above with me, teaching and mentoring me … she’s the ultimate partner. (Thank you so much, honey!)

Additionally, the support and encouragement I’ve gotten simply by saying I was doing of these things on Twitter and Facebook has been surprising and encouraging.

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OK, whew, 2800+ words later. That’s my update.

Quality Time Is So Critical With Your Most Important Partner

This week my wife and I have been on vacation in Jamaica with some good friends. It’s been an incredibly relaxing week so far. Lots of pool time, great food and drinks, laughs, reading, and yes, for me, trying to attempt something close to this on this Red Slide here.

But most of all — it’s the quality time with my most important partner — my wife Lindsey.

This week came at the right time for us. Even though we do weekly “day dates” together, we both acknowledged we needed some extended time away, from the busyness of life and the craziness of toddlers, just for us.

Early on in our relationship, we realized that regular, consistent, dedicated times to spend alone together was vital to our marriage and our health and happiness.

Just quality time together talking, reconnecting, holding hands, dreaming, reflecting, watching movies, reading books side by side next to a pool …

This week has been such an incredible reminder of the importance of quality time together.

As entrepreneurs, sometimes carrying what seems like all the worries and concerns of the worlds on our shoulders, I think it’s too easy to forget that and to set time aside just for you and yours. I know it’s true for me.

But the other thing is … realizing that importance for our most important partners — our spouses and significant others.

So a couple months ago, Dr. Sherry Walling and I started dreaming and planning a Couples Retreat just for entrepreneurs and their spouses/significant others. It’s coming in a couple of months.

It’s a time for you to reconnect with each other … in the company of other couples who get you and the often-challenging life you lead together.

Tickets are on sale now. We’re capping it at 15 couples, along with 3 host couples.

I think it’s a great excuse to put something on the calendar and to invest in your relationships.

Go check out more details about the ZenFounder Couples Retreat here. And whether you decide to join us or not for this retreat, I hope you’ll schedule some extended quality time together very very soon.

OK, now I’m heading back to the pool!