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Intimacy Disorder Assessment

INSTRUCTIONS: Mark YES to any of these you are currently doing or have ever done in a primary relationship.

Conceal your true thoughts and feelings

Fear being emotionally open and exposing your true self to others

Fear judgment, lack trust, and feel the need to protect yourself

Set emotional barriers, and a focus on your own thoughts and desires

Have a double life and secrets that lead to stress and a fear of being discovered

Engage in behaviors such as sex, or substance use, to avoid dealing with intimacy

Excessively rely on others for emotional validation and lack healthy boundaries

Unconsciously avoid intimate relationships to prevent potential emotional pain

Tend to disconnect from your own emotions and the emotions of others

Experience persistent feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness

Feel anxious and insecure related to the fear of not being enough

Avoid taking risks and expressing your true feelings because of anxiety and insecurity

Seek validation and approval through accomplishments or from others to feel valued

Compare yourself to others and feel inadequate if you don’t measure up

Find maintaining long-term relationships difficult

Tend to sabotage relationships when they become too intimate

Have inconsistent communication and unpredictable behavior in relationships

Use humor or sarcasm to deflect serious conversations about emotions

Have a history of unstable or tumultuous relationships

An inability to fully commit to a relationship

Avoid deep conversations and preferring to keep interactions superficial

Exhibit controlling or manipulative behavior to maintain distance

Strongly need for independence and self-sufficiency

Experiencing guilt or shame after moments of vulnerability

Avoid conflict or confrontation to maintain emotional distance

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AboutCory Miller (that’s me) is a former newspaper journalist and public relations/communications practitioner, turned freelance web designer, turned full-time entrepreneur. In January 2008, I founded iThemes, a provider of WordPress themes, and in the summer of 2009, we launched WebDesign.com, a premium provider of web design training with WordPress, then in 2010, PluginBuddy, for WordPress plugins. He is also co-author of WordPress All-in-One for Dummies (Wiley Publishing 2011). I use this blog to talk about my adventures in entrepreneurship (the roller coaster ride), things I am continually learning about marketing, new business announcements (yes, I will shamelessly promote my life’s work here!) and anything else I want to share with the world, in particular, my very amateur photos, which are most likely taken with my iPhone. Join me on Twitter. Subscribe to my blog feed or email newsletter (look in the sidebar). And if you really need to contact me, try using this contact form. But if you really want to be friends, join our customer community at iThemes (templates to build beautiful and effective websites in WordPress here), PluginBuddy (WordPress plugins, or the add-on software for WP) or WebDesign.com (learn how to do web design with WordPress aka premium…
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