One of the issues I wrestle with on an almost daily basis as an entrepreneur (a rookie one) is negativity.
Personally, I simmer, stew and dwell on any kind of negativity that comes my way — self-generated or otherwise. And for me, it’s one of the issues I have a hard time letting go. (Probably because I’m an F in the Myers-Briggs test and loathe conflict.)
As an entrepreneur, these types of episodes are specifically relating to customers and clients who aren’t happy. I take those times intensely personal because, by nature, I am a people pleaser. I love to give people what they want and then some. But as much time and energy as I spend to make things “perfect,” a small part of me realizes it’ll never happen.
SOMEBODY will be displeased. Somebody will be unhappy. Without fail, I’ll get an email — a medium that never adequately displays the true feelings of the sender — about something they don’t like, or feels slighted in some way.
Now, granted … these don’t come everyday … not hardly. But when they do, it lasts emotionally with me for DAYS.
This is why — although I have an neato iPhone that allows me to check my email wherever I am (whatever did I do without it?) — I have now stopped checking it right before I go to bed.
Trust me, getting something negative at midnight when you’re exhausted from working 16 hours — with an idealistic goal of perfection — ain’t the best kind of sleep medicine.
So I’m working on dealing with this negativity personally and professionally ….
It ain’t easy. Because as soon as I feel like I’m handling something well, that next email comes in.
OK, back to email ….